Liking, Attraction, & Relationships

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

BAD NEWS

 

 

 

GOOD NEWS

 

 

 

 

 

 

3 factors that affect interpersonal attraction

 

 

1. Familiarity

 

2. Similarity

 

3.  Physical attractiveness

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

I  FAMILIARITY:  Literally, how often we see someone

 

 

WHY?

 

A. more interaction

 

 

B. mere exposure

 

 

 

 

e.g., Studies w/ mirror images of the self

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Do birds of a feather flock together

Or

Do opposites attract

 

II SIMILARITY

 

---SIMILARITY IN ATTRACTIVENESS

e.g., the matching phenomenon

 

 

 

---SIMILARITY IN VALUES

ethnic background

social class

interests (hobbies)

attitudes

politics

religion

 

AS A GENERAL RULE…

In the short term---opposites may attract

In the long run-----people who are similar stay together

 

 

 

 

 

 

III PHYSICAL ATTRACTIVENESS

 

 

 

e.g., Walster’s dance study

 

 

 

 

 

 

WHY?

1. Sex….more attractive people are more sexually arousing

 

 

 

2. Aesthetic appeal….We like to look good and get “props” from others for being with attractive people

 

 

3.  The physical attractiveness stereotype….”What is beautiful is also good”

 

Is the stereotype true?

 

 

Then where does it come from?

 

1.       Taught by culture

2.       Wouldn’t it make life easier?

 

 

 

How pervasive is the stereotype?

 

 

 

CHILDREN: 

 

ADULTS: 

 

IN COURT:

 

BABIES & MOTHERS

 

 

 

THE ROLE OF CULTURE IN PHYSICAL ATTRACTIVENESS

 

Africa:

New Guinea:

Samoa:

 

 

1950’s:      Marilyn Monroe hour glass shape

1960/70’s: Very thin runway model look

1980’s:      More fit, athletic look

1990’s:      Athletic still seems popular but with body piercings, tattoos, & fake breasts

 

 

Is there a downside to being attractive?

 

       A) Manipulation

 

 

 

       B)  High school year book studies

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

MALES  VS.  FEMALES

 

1. Importance of physical attractiveness

 

Men 

 

Women  

 

 

 

 

 

 

2. Casual sex

 

 

 

 

 

 

WHY???

 

EVOLVED MATE PREFERENCES

(David Buss)

 

 

 

 

WOMEN

 

 

 

 

 

1. Economic  Capacity

 

 

 

2. Social Status

 

 

 

3. Age-- maturity

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

4. Ambition & industriousness

 

 

 

5. Dependability & stability

 

 

 

Intelligence, size & strength, good health

 

*Love & commitment

 

 

 

 

MEN

 

 

 

 

Why do men marry?

 

 

 

 

 

 

1. Youth

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

2. Physical Beauty

 

 

 

 

 

       Symmetrical faces

 

 

 

 

 

3. Vitality/health

 

 

4. Body shape

 

 

 

 

 

Sexual vs. Emotional Jealousy